Are You Soul-Sabotaging by Waiting to Get Clear on the To-Do List Before You Do the Things?
When I came up with the concept of my new training program (completely free, details at the bottom of this article!) brought me to thinking about the fact that we're surrounded by tonnes of task lists.
This idea that we need to constantly be given KPI's & to hit targets to progress is such BS.
I have a MiGoals diary, if you don't know what this is, check it out, they are pretty cool (not sponsored by the way).
BUT at the same time, MiGoals totally pisses me off.
Every day I open the damn thing to write down the to do's BUT when I open the page I'm BOMBARDED!
I am constantly mocked by the shit I wrote the day before that were 'must-do's', especially given that half of these I never got to. Obviously, they weren't actually 'must do's' and where just the things I thought I should do to be a 'real' entrepreneur.
But it gets even more outrageous!
Because there, on the right-hand side of the diary are blank boxes titled:
And it pisses me right off, who was I yesterday to tell myself today what I must do?
Admittedly sometimes when I'm feeling like a 'good girl' I write in them, but more often than not I don't. I notice when I don't write them in, I can feel like I've somehow failed as a human being, god forbid I write them in and don't do them!
I have this feeling that if I don't write down my goals and get clear on them for the week, I'll lose all of myself and tumble into an overweight, apathetic, stained tracksuit wearing, cookie eating ball of nothingness.
WTF is that about?
I wasn't trusting myself that in the flow I will naturally do all the things that will move the needle, that I DON'T need to micro-manage myself to ensure I stay on point.
But here is the conduit... Wait, conduit? I don't know if that's the right word for the sentence, but I like the word and it feels right, and you'll catch my vibe so I'm keeping it...
What the difference when I write down my weekly goals/habits vs when I don't?
Firstly if I write them down I can sometimes feel like I'm suffocating myself, like the week's already finished before it's even started. And other times it feels good to get clear on the direction.
But what ALWAYS feels good is delegating those tasks to my PA. Getting her on board was a damn needle mover!!
So I guess writing it all down helped me to see that there was a heap of shit I did not want to do. Let's be honest, I would probably never do any of it because I'm honest to myself and I know what I don't want to do.
Not to say I avoid doing challenging & difficult things, I love a challenge, bring it on, baby. But I'm talking about the stuff my soul is like 'this is fucking boring me to tears'.
So I made more space for myself, and started to write down bigger picture tasks and then sometimes I'd write a task to write tasks (what the!??)
Do you know where that got me?
Nowhere. Except I do enjoy using my fancy mother of pearl pen.
I got more results when I stopped worrying about doing all the things on my list and instead I tapped into what would actually level me up and move the needle at this moment, and sometimes it's taking a nap.
I'm not saying I'll never write out a list, I do love a list, but I'm not going to allow it to hold me hostage.
I wouldn't recommend this for everyone, this is only for those who are willing to know themselves, to get deep into the truth, every DAMN DAY.
If you're the type of person that likes to play it safe, and do everything perfectly and live like a robot then this is not for you.
Actually, I'm probably not for you, but you wouldn't have read this far in if that was you... Of course, unless you're one of those people who must finish everything they start, which is a total waste of energy and comes from a lack of mentality. No beat up there, that used to be me too.
I commit to sitting with myself every day to journal, meditate, contemplate, sometimes I spend the whole damn day in this space. And this is where the real results are created. The action might take 10 minutes, but it's worth more than whole days worth of 'must do's' (that are just 'should do's' because that's what you read in a book). Sometimes there is no action at all but I've automatically up-levelled myself in all areas because I decided too and I acted in total faith by stopping the madness of ticking of to-dos.
I trust that the knowledge of myself will keep me from becoming a ball of lazy nothingness. I know I will never become that because that's not at my truth, I was born to create, to play, to lead. I know this like I know a ripe mango.
I don't need to micro-manage myself.
I'm not a damn worker bee. I'm the motherf*cking Queen Bee!
PS - I'll be running a 9-day FREE training for those who are itching to launch their message into the world but have been sitting on their hands waiting for the right time, THIS IS THE TIME, message me or join our Facebook group Wealthy Rebels with a Cause xx
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