It All Comes Out in the Wash

It all comes out in the wash said the old people dismissively.

I actually don't think anyone ever said that to me. And I don't really know anyone in my life who is 'old', sure my Gran was 97 but she felt young.

Perhaps I heard it in a movie or read it in a book.

Anyway, it seems like it would be the advice given by an old, wise, perhaps slightly apathetic soul would say to a perturbed youngster.

This morning as I was sitting at my usual spot at the waterfall considering how much I have changed in terms of holding on tightly to money and things.

And the more relaxed management of cycling money doesn't have anything to do with the amount of money I have since this year has actually been the tightest year I've had- a testament to the turbulence and heartache inspired by the events of this year.

Here are some beliefs I now carry to support an easeful relationship with spending and giving:

Money directs me where it wants to go, it's not 'mine', I'm only a vehicle for it to flow. Give freely as I'm directed.

Don't worry about fairness and the response from others, what matters is that I like the kind of person I am.

When I give, I instantly get...let me explain this one, when you feel love for someone else, what do you feel? Love! Give love, gifts, kindness, presence and you instantly receive it.

There are ebs and flows in numbers, yet numbers are essentially meaningless, I always have more than enough of what matters.

I'm always supported, even the moments that feel difficult - these have a gift for me to integrate that will support me.

And finally be the person I want to be now, not waiting for some external source. Life is now.

Every super accomplished person has been through challenges, it's not what happens, but who you are when it's all going down.

So let go of the money someone owes you....trust me on this, and it will likely get given back to you once you let go of it.

Give without comparing what you received from others. Instead, focus on the feeling of giving from your heart, it feels way better than any material present, except perhaps for a pair of Louboutins, that trumps everything.

If you're struggling right now, trust this place- it might lead you to a million-dollar book deal, no one ever wrote a good story that went...

Hi my name is Perfect, my mother had an orgasmic water birth while monks chanted prayers, I came out perfect, and my parents were absolutely perfect, my IQ is above average, I always got everything I wanted, everyone loved me, my digestion was always smooth and fast, I was successful at everything I did, my hair always stayed in place and my nails were always clean.

No, that book is boring.

Don't worry about fairness, or getting your share, holding on to that is drinking poison.

Everything will work out, give freely, love freely, it all comes out in the wash.